Monday, 26 June 2017

When Questions Become the Answers!

The Art of Self-Questioning 

Questioning has always been a powerful tool for humans to delve deep into our personality and gain insight and understanding of human behavior and growth. Socrates, the great philosopher used the power of questioning to great effect and demonstrated how effective questioning could yield the desirable results aligned well with our defined objectives.  “Socratic Questioning” is still used as a powerful technique for building critical thinking.

Life is a continuous pursuance of our dreams and desires with no in-built checks or auto-correction in place. To keep progressing in life, it’s essential that we regularly stop, step back, reflect, correct and then again move forward with better clarity and renewed energy.  There can’t be any better way for doing this than “Self-Questioning”.  When we perfect the art of “self-questioning”, our questions become the answers to whatever holds us back. Let’s dive a little into what makes the process of “self-questioning” more effective and useful

Why is Self-Questioning important?

Growth, Progression and Achievement are 3 cornerstone of a successful life. Questioning helps identify the strengths and barriers and the act of questioning to self creates alignment with our Purpose, Goals and Actions. From thereon, the self-questioning process helps us reflect, review, make necessary correction and restart.


Self-Questioning is the most important form of self-talk that we do. It establishes a connect with our inner self to bring out the powers and resources lying latent in us.

Framing Questions

When Question itself becomes the Answer, then it becomes crucial to develop a robust framework that generates the appropriate questions that we should be asking yourself. When indulging in self-questioning, we should frame questions starting with the following:
  •          Where do I stand now? (Status quo)
  •          What do I want to achieve in life? (Purpose and Goals)
  •          Why do I want to achieve the above Purpose and Goals? (Rationale)
  •          How do I plan to achieve your goals? (Strategy)
  •          (By) When do I want to achieve them? (Deadline)

To sum it up, a robust framework of self-questioning is built by seamlessly integrating self-coaching principles in the entire process!

Wednesday, 3 May 2017

When Emotions play Dominoes


There are times in our life that we can recollect when we slumped from bad to worse or rose from good to better/ best. Those times and incidents not only leave us surprised/ shocked but also in wonderment of why and how it happened to us. What could have triggered such a drastic change in an instant, taking us from a point of control/ manageability to a point where things just seem to be sliding away from our grip. The culprit here is none other than our EMOTIONS, the element of our personality that’s most talked about but least understood. Many a times Emotions get tricky and play dominoes in our life if not checked and managed in time. Emotions, per se, are neither good or bad and it’s only our interpretation in the context and our reaction thereafter that lets the emotions loose and starts the dominoes effect.


As we move into a sphere of interaction with self or surroundings (environment and people), one of the basic emotions gets activated inside us. This basic emotion assumes proportion based on the intensity of our thoughts and interaction. This intensity sets the dominoes effect in motion and impact us in 2 major ways

  1.  our activated emotions take a leap from a mild form to a more extreme one, which is not only stronger but very overwhelming too. Once it assumes the stronger format then it becomes extremely difficult to manage the emotions  
  2. affects us at all levels – mental, physical and spiritual. The dominoes may trigger at one level but then encapsulates the other also. 
Irrespective of the nature of emotion (positive or negative, based on our perception), there’s always a danger of dominoes effect happening. Whatever is the nature, the dominoes effect will put us in a highly energised state and this will be very difficult to tame or to harness. More damage is done when the emotion is negative as it severely makes a dent at our subconscious level hitting at our esteem and confidence.

To halt this roller coaster ride of emotions and stop the dominoes effect of emotions, all that is required is to 
  • Accept that emotions exist and are an integral part of our personality. Nothing could re-iterate this fact more clearly than the existence of “Emotional Brain” in us 
  • Understand the damage the emotions could inflict on us
  • Learn to identify emotions in our self as they occur. Move from a thinking state to feeling state in situations
  • Learn to manage the emotions right when they occur by positive and productive actions/ behaviour

So, let’s get the ball rolling and stop the emotions juggernaut ! 

Saturday, 29 April 2017

ZEAL takes us to ZENITH#AtoZChallenge

Z is for "ZEAL"



We always aspire to reach the Zenith in our life and this gets manifested in the form of our
aspirations. But many a times our half-hearted efforts results in unachieved goals and a gap persist between our Inspiration and Aspiration.  Even though we are inspired to achieve our aspiration triggered goals, still there’s something that holds us back from achieving our goals. This missing piece is “ZEAL” which ensures sustained movement towards our goal(s). ZEAL refers to enthusiasm and excitement that is so much needed to keep us inspired always.  

Why ZEAL is important ?
·         Helps us achieve our goals
·         Keeps us passionate about our actions/ tasks
·         ZEAL breeds positive energy that is necessary to move forward  
·         We become a positive influencer for people around us
·         It provides direction to our efforts , so we need to ensure that it’s channelized in the right direction
·         Keeps us in a creative frame of mind and ensures better problem-solving and decision making

How to ensure “ZEAL” in life ?

·         An early diagnosis of our goals would help us ensure that we are pursuing the right goals
·         In case the ZEAL is missing, we must  change our goals and pick the ones that excite us and make us enthusiastic
·         Adopting an optimistic mind set ensures positive outlook towards life
·         Build in sufficient “self-time” to pursue our hobbies and calming activities like mindfulness, meditation and yoga. This will bring more clarity about  our goals in life
·         Build proper checkpoints to keep us on track. Also do a regular review of goals and  do the necessary correction whenever required

“ZEAL” is the backbone of  a Progressive Life ! 

YEARN for YIN_YANG#AtoZChallenge

Y is for YIN-YANG


PERFECTION and BALANCE are 2 things that each one of us is striving for in our life. But the irony is that we are trying to achieve it in a completely non-conducive environment which consist of a world that’s overflowing with information & knowledge; mind that is filled to the brim with chaos and commotion and a body that is all the time busy multi-tasking. We are aiming for the improbable considering the dynamic eco-system we live and operate in. The best way to achieve balance is to seek progression instead of perfection and move forward. The moment we start accepting the duality of everything in life, we will achieve balance in life. This principle of duality is YIN-YANG, a concept/ approach which helps us deal effectively with uncertainties of life - ups and downs, good times and bad times, opportunities and challenges.

Why is YIN-YANG important ?


·      Life is never a smooth ride and we need to deal with adversity as well. YIN-YANG prepares us for dealing with the downs in life and move ahead in life
·   Adopting the YIN-YANG approach build in us the requisite mental strength to deal with difficulties
·        YIN-YANG prepares us to build multiple perspectives
·        YIN-YANG helps us perceive the adversities as natural       happenings and not get bogged down by them 


How to balance YIN-YANG ?

·         Accepting failures and negative events in our life as natural occurrences, similar to the positive ones
·         Focus on achieving balance in all aspects of life – work, home, relationships, etc. The more all these aspects are in harmony, the more balanced our life will be
·         Include practices like mindfulness, meditation and yoga which connect us to our inner self
·         Practice gratitude and be thankful for everything in life
·         Declutter life to attract clarity and positivity in life

 Bring YIN-YANG in life and live holistically forever ! 

Friday, 28 April 2017

"X-FACTOR" avoids being a "XEROX"#AtoZChallenge

X is for "X-FACTOR"


“Survival of the fittest” is the mantra for success in this highly competitive world. There is a cut-throat competition everywhere and in everything. To come out victorious we need to outclass our competitors and also be the preferred choice.  To stand apart from the crowd we need to be unique in something, possess some special talent, develop some special skill/ knowledge which is what is termed as “X-FACTOR”.  This “X-FACTOR” is the real differentiator for us which separates us from the rest of the crowd and puts us right there in front and in limelight. “X-FACTOR” is what we excel at.


Why “X-FACTOR” is important ?

·         It makes us more charismatic and creates a magnetic effect in our personality
·         It is an important trait in our personality which differentiates us from others and determines our success
·         Gives us an extra edge over our competitors in situations where every competitor meets the basic mandated requirement of education, skills and knowledge and something unique or different plays the deciding factor
·         It paves the way for us to move forward in life
·         It boosts our self-esteem and confidence as we find worth in our existence
·         It helps us identify our USP (Unique Selling Proposition) which helps us direct our energy and effort on our unique talent, skill or passion

How to identify/ develop “X-FACTOR” ?

·         Exploring our interests and passion helps us identify our “X-FACTOR”. What excites us and keeps us involved is most probably our “X-FACTOR”.
·         If in various social situations, people approach us and show keenness to interact with us because of our certain behaviour/ attitude then that’s an indication of our “X-FACTOR” at play
·         Once identified, it’s important to develop it further to retain that extra edge in our personality and capitalise on the opportunities that come our way.
·         Hone your “X-FACTOR” skills as much as possible by practicing it over and over again, Be an Outlier by doing it for 10,000 hours
·         Try bettering at the “X-FACTOR” by doing it with interest and attention

Let your X-FACTOR make you a WINNER !

Thursday, 27 April 2017

WILLPOWER makes a WINNER#AtoZChallenge

W is for WILLPOWER


Many a times winning is more to do with our inner ability and strength rather than the external skill or knowledge. The true test of a winner’s personality is his/ her ability to push themselves towards accomplishing the goal(s) or completing the task at hand in spite of all odds and many challenges. This ability is termed as WILLPOWER and is a necessary personality trait for anyone wanting to achieve great/ big things in life. WILLPOWER connotes inner strength and/ or determination needed to overcome all obstacles and always be inspired to complete the task at hand, those tasks which others may give up because they are hard to finish. 

Why WILLPOWER is important ?

·         Gives us the power of choice – either to give up or move on and be an achiever
·         Enables us to overcome any difficult problem or obstacle 
      with ease
·         Gives us inner strength to take tough actions in life and be ready for any challenge
·         Build us determination to complete the task and achieve the defined goals
·         Helps us move out of our comfort zone and adapt quickly to any kind of CHANGE in life
·         Gives us an edge over our competitors and make us competitive
·         Builds a positive self-image; positively impacts our self-esteem; boosts our self-confidence
·         Builds a strong character person

 How to build WILLPOWER ?

·         See the BIG picture instead of focusing on short-term benefits of achieving any goal
·         Be creative by taking up challenging tasks
·         Develop a solution-oriented mind set to find ways to do things
·         Break up goals into smaller and manageable sub-goals which are easier to track and achieve
·         Develop inner strength through practices like Mindfulness, Yoga and Meditation
·         Use Affirmations to build up positive self-image and self-confidence
·         Adopt an action-oriented approach in life – always willing to try out things and attempt them
·         Don’t get overwhelmed with the task/ goal. Think action and the sub-goal
·         Overconfidence is a killer. Don’t assume success. Take every task as new and give it your best try

Let your WILLPOWER be the magic wand of SUCCESS !  

Wednesday, 26 April 2017

VISUALISATION ensures VICTORY#AtoZChallenge

V is for VISUALISATION


We set many goals during the different stages of our life and always look for tools that could support or supplement our goal-achievement process. The entire process of achieving our goals can be made easy if our subconscious starts aiding the process. Our mind possess immense power and can help manifest the desired outcomes that we seek in our life if conditioned well. The technique that uses the power of mind to create images/ pictures of the desired reality and also convinces the subconscious to accept it as reality is known as VISUALISATION. We can create our dream future using the power of VISUALISATION by creating images of that future in present tense, assuming it has already occurred. 

Why VISUALISATION Is important (Benefits)?

·         It helps us achieve our goals
·         Helps us create our dream future vividly
·         Expands our capabilities and help us move beyond our limitations  
·         Enables us to thrive on the immense power of our mind
·         Improves our focus and concentration
·         Improves our overall health as it reduces stress, relaxes our mind, keeps us positive
·         Allows us to take control of our life
·         Encourages us to take risks and go for the impossible


How to ensure Effective Visualisation ?

·        Visualise in present tense and couple it with positive 
      affirmative statements
·         Focus on involving all the senses to make the Visualisation effective
·         Do it regularly and consistently
·         Do it at a distraction free place so that there’s no disturbance
·         Practice, Practice and Practice will make the Visualisation 
      more effective
·         Set up clear goals to make the Visualisation more useful
·        Always engage in positive self-talk as this will help 
      us maintain positive self-esteem and good self-image of 
      our self

So, turn your dreams into reality by using the power of VISUALISATION !